In part of ‘’growing up’’, is the challenge of learning to face both good and bad results of our decisions squarely!
Abortion should not be one of your best options to a pregnancy. It is like a termination of waste from your body and if you do not want human life growing in you, why should you make one in the first place?
Abortion has serious consequences, many young girls in Uganda die while trying to abort, others became infertile, and others go through a lot of pain when it is happening. Even when successfully done, others are affected psychologically by it for the rest of their lives.
Running away from home, either, is not the wisest option to a pregnancy. A home is not just a house or roof under which people live. It is a natural bond of unity, love, forgiveness and belonging that yields over time in a family. This unborn child you want to run away with is a significant part of the new small family that you a child is starting with another child that still need your big families for growth and belonging.
In running away, you would be denying this child the right to a family, neglecting your responsibility as a parent, and opening bigger doors of challenges in your life like living a burdensome life with other relatives, exposure to street life and a threat of rape, child labor, and more –all for throwing away the beauty of family life by not telling your parents.
When you are a young person and you get pregnant you need a lot psychological and financial help. This can be got from your parents. When you get pregnant, you need to get a way of letting your parents know about it so that they can support you through the pregnancy and after.
Parents could be good listeners and probable best friends to you, if you tried to welcome them in your life and shared with them some of your challenges. They are normal human beings just like you and could understand your challenge.
Pregnancy strains the girl physically and emotionally. If you got pregnant, you would need special care to help you go through the pregnancy. You will need to start attending antenatal care in the early months of the pregnancy to reduce the dangers of teenage pregnancies. Additionally you will need to get the correct information and advice on how to cope with the pregnancy.
For all these, you will need help from your parents or guardian. Your peers or boy friend may not have the right information, experience or financial capacity to help you.
Though hard, you will need to inform your parents or guardian of the pregnancy. This will naturally anger them, but they will eventually cool down. If you cannot talk to them, ask someone close to them like a relative or a close friend to help you talk to them. Running away from home should not be an option, because you need your parents most at this time of your pregnancy.
Remember, getting pregnant should not be the end of your education. Many girls have gone back to school after delivery, so can you. To go back to school, you will need help from your parents or guardian.
You should not even think of abortion. In Uganda abortion is illegal and is therefore done hurriedly and unprofessionally leading to many other complications and many deaths.
Daniel
Getting pregnant is as a result of a girl or lady having sexual intercourse with a man.
Preganancy develops and the stomach of the lady protrudes forward and at one moment everybody is able to see and tell that somebody is pregnant.
If you got pregant and ran away from home, that won’t stop the child inside you from growing, and at one moment you would require that your parents know about whatever is going on in your life.
The other option of removing it is very dangerous to you because you may die in the process. Secondly it is against the laws of Uganda and you can be imprisoned.
Young lady imagine if your parents removed you, will you have seen and done all you have been able to in your life which life has been so sweet????
Being pregnant is not the end of the world. You can as well go back to school and study after delivering and this is where your parents are of greatest importance to you and for you.
So the best way is for you would be to inform them of what is going on in your life so that they can come out to give you all the support. Ofcourse they may not be very pleased to see you pregnant but they must be in position to understand.
So take care my dear.
Getting pregnancy is very normal for all menstruating girls and it is a symbol of maturity. The moment one starts to experience monthly periods means is a mother enough.
Discussion making and priority at this time is important to avoid embarrassments, neglectful and hash treatment.
It is again normal that parents would not like seeing you pregnant while their neighbors’ daughters of your age attend school. This irritates and brings shame to the family and so needs to be avoided.
When however you get caught in a fet, the best way is letting parents know you are pregnant but you need to channel the news through an old person preferably a close family friend. You could be helped better than just running away.