Bad touches constitute a category of sexual abuse that is suffered silently by most women for various reasons. Things like touching your breasts, stroking your bums, caressing your thighs in class or taxis, are incidences that are not right and safe for you as young people.
Because of the fact that they are common and yet less punished, it becomes every young girl’s responsibility to guard her self from such humiliating touches.

Through dressing better, in less revealing clothes, one could limit the occurrence of bad touches as there will not be much exposure to whoever wants to touch; adopting better sitting postures say in classes would block any chances of a boy from caressing ones ajar thighs; choosing hangout spots should be done carefully as some places are common with boys and men that would touch every descent and not woman or girl.

Your ways of interaction with the male sex should be straight forward and should not send mixed signals and lastly girls and women need to check their time of movement in certain areas, just so to keep themselves safe.

Thank you for inquiring. Both reasons for sex from this boy are wrong. The fact that you are in puberty, means you grew from conception [time of birth], to infancy, childhood and now puberty, all without having sex to help you grow.

Breast size just like growth is also not determined by having sexual intercourse.  Breasts normally enlarge at the time of puberty in response to the hormone oestrogen, produced by the ovaries. It is therefore not true that sex would make you grow or get bigger breasts. You have a hormone [a substance that regulates body processes] oestrogen, that is responsible for that.

Do not be fooled by this boy nor compare your breasts to those of other girls because we all grow at diffrent rates.

Sorry about your challenge young sister. It must be a horrible experience for you, not having a pad to use. I take it you meant the already made sanitary products in the market. Well, my sister, your challenge is apparently still experienced by many women and girls today. Your worry is created by the misconception that we must always use these manufactured sanitary towels on the market but that is not true because you can make one yourself, especially if you cannot afford the ones in the market today.

One of the timeless methods used is that of making one yourself by using a cotton piece of cloth [so it can absorb and hold your flow]. It could be from an old dress, bed sheet or any other cotton cloth you could specifically buy for making your pads.

Fold the piece of cloth to a small rectangular shape to a layer thick enough to hold your flow and a length that does not peep out of your panty [which by the way should be fitting enough to hold your pad and not make it slide off your body] . Fold more pieces of the same sort for storage in your bag for you to keep changing for hygiene and to avoid leakages, when the one you are wearing gets soaked. At least change every three to four hours if your flow is not heavy.

If you have many clothes, you could throw this used one away but if you do not have more, thoroughly wash the used one CLEAN, dry it and iron it for another use. In case you do not have an iron box, ensure that the cloth dries under direct sun and fresh air or wind.

This method is one that never grows old and requires a lot of good hygiene and confidence from you.

Forced marriage is against your right as a child and I commend you for your refusal yet, and do not give up on your self. Your situation is indeed a worrying one but could have a way out of it, depending on the situations surrounding your life.

Lets explore some of these situations;-

Assuming you were in a day School, not far from where your parents stay, you could explain your challenge to one of your teachers or head teacher and request them to talk to your parents about the benefits of them leaving you in school.

In another situation, that you have relatives with girl children in school, try to talk to them and request their assistance to talk to your parents, so they could change your parent’s attitudes.

Let’s not also forget the possible reasons for them to force you into marriage. May be your parents feel like you are not studying hard enough, that probably you’re too jumpy with boys or are you too indisciplined.  Some parents still think that marriage is the best place to correct indiscipline, or the only success for academically challenged girls. Should this be true, you as a person need to do better in your behavior, character, academics and personal discipline and way of communicating to your parents so that they can treasure you more as an asset or investment for their better lives as well in future rather then force you into marriage.

In a situation that your parents are just being abusive and do not see value in you going to school, you could visit the Child and Family Protection Desk at the nearest police post in your home area, so they could better help you all as a family. This Desk has friendly officers [not necessarily Police officers] that have special skills in helping families with challenges relating to abuse. Both forced marriage and chasing you from home can be classified as child abuse and neglect.

So my dear troubled youth, try to assess the circumstances surrounding your challenge and seek guidance from a social worker, counselor, religious leaders, other relatives, teachers and head teacher, organizations or police for help.